Couples
Stress and distraction go hand in hand in today's world, and couples find it
more difficult to connect and maintain a level of intimacy conducive to
mutual respect and growth in their relationship.
It is easy to take your partner for granted. Often, it is "just too hard" to do
the work required to hold a healthy relationship together. Many partners feel
that they are the one "who does all the work," and they grow resentful .
Resentment leads to contempt and finally disengagement. When you give
up on yourself and your marriage, you are setting yourself up for a life of
disappointment, possible infidelity, or divorce. What can couples do?
Marital Counseling. If you are far off track in your relationship, but you are
committed to making it work, seek help. Ask yourself these 3 questions:
-What am I myself willing to do to be a better partner?
-How will this be hard for me (what do I have to do to/give up)?
-How motivated am I to do this?
In working with couple's I draw from John Gottman's groundbreaking
research on helping distressed couples. I also utilize EFCT (Emotionally
Focused Couple's Therapy) and CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)
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